Bible Story Breakdown

So here lately, after we finish homework books, I let Rae pick a story from her Storybook Bible. I feel like this is a good way to continuously expose her to our religion, faith, beliefs, etc. Last night would be what I’d call a bit of a doozy. She chose the story of Abraham and Isaac.

Just a little refresher for those who need it, Abraham was told by God to sacrifice his only son, Isaac. He chose to obey and sadly went through the process of preparing for sacrifice. Now before some of you get your panties in a wad, God did NOT allow the sacrifice to happen. It was a test of Abraham’s faith in Him. God stopped Abraham and saved Isaac using the opportunity to let him know that His son was coming and would be a great sacrifice to save His people.

This is how Rae reacted: “Umm, Mommy, that shouldn’t happen…God wouldn’t want that to happen…Why is Abraham doing that to his kid?” After each question I’d reply with a simple, “Just listen and see what happens”. This sufficed til the end of the story. Once she realized Isaac was safe and there was a happy ending, she said, “See? I told you God had that”.

After a few minutes of contemplation, she then says, “I just don’t get this whole dying thing”. As a parent, it took me a few seconds to recover from such a big statement. I asked what she meant by that. Her explanation was that she didn’t get why some kids and people die when they are still young. I replied with what I felt in my heart was the proper response. (Though some may not agree.)

I told her that God has a plan for everyone. He knows it before we are even born. Sometimes it takes many years for us to do that job, and sometimes it doesn’t take as long. Maybe the ones that die young have done their job assigned by God here on Earth, and he rewards them by bringing them home to Him. Yes, we miss them and our hearts hurt from it, but we have to remember that they are safe and happy.

She smiled the biggest smile, and gave me the biggest hug, and ended the conversation with “God sure does love us”. Yes He does, baby girl. He sure does.

Life Happens

I’ve been MIA for a few weeks now, and for good reason. Life happened. We got busy. I did some things for myself. I depended on family in times of need. Let me start at the beginning.

My car (that is so close to being paid off I can taste it) has decided to throw a temper tantrum. It kept running hot and I couldn’t figure out why. My dad met me on the side of the road and found nothing. A few days later it happened again. I made it to my brother’s place of work for him to look at it, and he spotted a leak. The tank for my coolant was cracked. Lucky for me, he works at a shop and could fix it in no time. Now it’s the tires…

Then we had Rae’s schedule to keep. A follow up with her pediatrician for her meds was scheduled right in the middle of this awful flu epidemic. We sat in a waiting room full of masks for what seemed like forever. After all of the flu patients were rushed through, we were finally seen. Her dosage was upped to 10 mg again, but everything else was perfect. Weight gain, progress, shared info were all what they needed to be.

After the pediatrician, we raced to her chiropractic appointment. She cracked and popped like it was her first adjustment. Poor kid wasn’t happy about it. But got the clear to come back in a month.

A few meltdowns this week, and she was back to normal Rae by Friday.

On top of the craziness, the weather hasn’t been on my side either. Rain, rain, rain…could be worse.

Friday at around lunch time I got a call asking if I could meet my sister-in-law at the ER. Her youngest fell at school and broke her wrist. Poor thing was so pitiful! I worked a smile and a few giggles out of her before going to pick Rae up from school.

The week ended with a rainy girl’s night and Rae spending time with her grandparents.

All in all, I have no complaints. Yes I was frustrated when things didn’t go right, but there was also so much positive to see. I have family to help me. I have friends to spend time with. We have all that we need and wake up every morning to another beautiful day. I guess what I’m trying to say is don’t take the small positives for granted. They count, too. Sometimes those small positives are all you need to make it to the next day. Enjoy the ups and downs life throws at you. They are all worth it!

The Infamous “I”…

Let me start by bragging a little on my kid. She received her report card yesterday and got so many good marks! I am one very proud mommy!!

Now, let me explain the “I” in my title… The kindergarten report card uses letters: P= Proficient, I= In Progress, and N= Needs More Time to Develop. There’s an “I” on her report card that has been consistent last school year and so far this year. Am I upset about it? Not really. Here’s why…

Rae’s infamous “I” is in the box marked Self Control. As any parent knows, self control is learned in life and isn’t an easy task for some. Rae’s struggle has always been in this area. We’ve done exercises, activities, research, therapy, you name it to try to help her with this. It’s gotten better over time, but there’s still those moments. Here are some things that we’ve tried to help her with self control:

1) Marshmallow Game / Bubble Pop: sit a marshmallow in front of the child. Tell them not to eat it until the timer goes off. (We did 5 minutes.) After the time is up, allow the child to eat the marshmallow. As for the bubbles, blow them around your child but tell them not to pop any by moving around. Of course after the allotted time of not popping them, let them have fun!

2) Make expectations clear and be consistent with consequences. Rae knows what is expected of her. I have tried to get everyone that interacts with her on a daily basis on the same page. There are still a few bumps on this path, but for the most part it’s smoothing out. This also coincides with the next item on the list.

3) Routine! She thrives on a stable and predictable routine. The slightest change can throw her whole day off. We talk about our day before we start it, and discuss the events of it before bed. If anything has to change from our norm, she is aware of it in advance if at all possible.

4) Reminders. When Rae has a “moment” as I like to call them, I point it out to her. Then I remind her of past consequences from this same action. This one has been tough because she tries to give a logical explanation for what’s happening and then talk her way out of the known consequence. (I’m in for a long road with this one! 🙂) I stick to my reminders and consequences, and usually we get back on track.

Side note: I like to create a maintain a good relationship with Rae’s teachers. This includes school, dance, etc. If she’s having an off day, they are made aware of it. Rae knows when this communication is made by either witnessing it or her teachers mentioning it to her. That connection between home and wherever she may be has been a huge help for her. I am so very grateful for the support she receives and the time they invest in her well-being.

I know her self control will come. It’s just going to take a little longer for her to establish. This is chalked up to not only her ADHD, but to her being a child. She is an emotional little bundle of love. And I look forward to every step we take to help her grow, even the tough ones.

It takes a village! ❤️

For Your Entertainment

I know I usually focus a good bit on Rae’s ADHD and the struggles we face, but this time I want to share some of our funny moments with you. So, sit back and enjoy snippets of our humorous life! 🙂

1) Every parent has that one go-to phrase they use in frustrating moments. Rae has finally picked up on mine…She was coloring in the car a few days ago and I hit a bump causing her to go out of the lines. She slams her hand down on the paper and growls out, “God bless America!” Hey, it could be worse.

2) We had communion during Sunday service this past week. Rae has always had questions about baptism and stories she’s heard, but this peaked a whole new interest in her this time around. She would quietly ask about the bread, and I’d whisper that she could listen to the pastor or I’d explain after church. Then came the juice. She listened, but apparently when he mentioned “the blood of Jesus”, she thought we had blood in our cups. She tries to quietly tell me not to drink the “blood”. After I partake in the juice, she gets a worried look and tells me to never drink blood again. It was very hard to explain the semblance when she was determined that she heard the pastor correctly.

3) New babies in our family always brings up fun questions. Rae inspected my stomach one day looking for where she was “extracted” from. Apparently she caught a glimpse of her aunt’s c-section scar, and that’s the point of extraction. (I had a natural delivery…tiptoed around that conversation.)

4) Has anybody else’s kid pretended to have another name? Rae’s alias is Coral. She has signed her name as Coral on artwork, told me I called her the wrong name (in public!), and even had people believing that her first name was Coral. I just throw my hands up at that one now and leave it alone.

Share some of your funny moments! A good laugh never hurts the heart.

ADHD and Dance?

At the first of the month, a well-known dance instructor decided to open her studio again. I mentioned it to Rae and she was ecstatic! Now, I’ve mentioned before all of the extra-curriculars we have explored. Soccer, gymnastics, cheer…none of them were a hit with Rae. She had her first dance class last night and fell in love with it! As a mother, I gave a huge sigh of relief. Fingers crossed she stays in love with it.

Before signing her up, I decided to do a little research on if it had any benefits for ADHD children. I kind of fell into a gold mine of information. Did you know that dance is actually used as therapy for this? The dance helps with impulse control, coordination, focus, and is an emotional outlet!

*Cue the angelic “aaahhhhh”s!*

Rae has practiced her poses and showed me how to work her tap shoes numerous times. (Tap is her favorite. I had to hide the shoes so she wouldn’t wear them to school today.) I love seeing her take the time to do the poses properly. You can see the wheels turning in her head and her focusing on balance. This could be the beginning of a beautiful journey. 🙂

What are some out-of-the-ordinary methods and techniques have you used to help with ADHD? (Any tips on getting her to keep her room clean???)

❤️ Hope y’all are having an amazing week!

Happy New Year!!

For me, 2017 was a year full of ups and downs. We lost some pretty special people, my nephew was sick for the first few months of his life, health problems for my parents were diagnosed…on to the ups! One of my best friends got married, my baby brother and his fiancée brought their baby boy home, and Rae got amazing teachers for her year of K5. I also started a new job, made some new friends, and started some new ventures. Key word in that sentence is “started”…life happens and we lose track of things we feel may be less important. So for 2018, I have decided to make a list of goals instead of resolutions. I also have a support system to help me stick with them. And daily reminders set on my phone…😁 Let me share them with you:

1) Write a new blog post once a week.

I haven’t exactly stuck with this. And I used the excuse of being busy. Not any more!

2) Drink more water!!

I hate the taste of plain water. I don’t like the powder flavors either. I have found a solution! I squeezed some oranges and froze the juice in an ice tray. One cube is enough for my 16oz tumbler. Now, 8 glasses per day sounds like a lot to me. I prefer looking at it as only a half gallon a day. I still get my coffee first (so I don’t bite any heads off), and then water after. Nothing else to drink until that half gallon is consumed! Wish me luck…

3) Exercise daily.

This seems to be the norm for everyone. Pinterest has tons of calendars and 30 day challenges with a variety of exercises to choose from. My January challenge is called “Jump Off the Jiggle”. Fun enough for Rae to join me and not a load of exercises to start off with.

I am sticking with 3 for now. Another goal for the year is to finish that writing project I started. This one is more time consuming, so now definite time frame is set for it. I will be looking for people to help me polish off some rough edges on that also. Just some reading and editing.

Hope y’all had an amazing holiday season and may you be blessed all year long!

I’ve been slack…

Ok, I know I haven’t written lately, but life happens. Rae decided to cheer for the town, and a lot of free time goes into that. With that being said, let me bring you up to speed:

Rae went back to her pediatrician a few weeks ago. She was starting to develop a small tic and slight stutter. I brought these up to him (she was on 10mg of Focalin XR) and he decided it was best to cut her back to 7.5mg. She had also lost some weight, so I bought her Pediasure to try to keep that from happening. She drinks it fairly easily every day, but now she is having trouble at school again. Talking, arguing with her classmates…seems like we are back to the impulse control issue also. I know these things come with ADHD. The thought running through my mind now is, “could something in the Pediasure be affecting the medication?”. Anybody have any insight?? I’ve tried researching this, but came up with nothing. For right now we will go back to trial and error by saving the Pediasure for bedtime. I’ll keep y’all posted. (On the plus side, the Pediasure seems to have helped the tummy aches!)

On to cheer! Her coaches are so very understanding…🙂 by the time she gets to practice her meds are long gone. She enjoys the games, caught on to the routines quick, and has made a lot of new friends. The season is coming to a close and competition is approaching. Her meds will be on board that day…

As for me, I have been working on a personal project. Not going into a lot of detail, but hopefully by next summer I will have something bigger to share with y’all. A clue: I enjoy writing and have set a HUGE goal for myself. This one has been brewing for a while. 😉 Send me some motivation!!